Here’s what it’s like to be in a relationship with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder
Dropping a message before you start working for the day to say you have a busy one ahead, but you’re thinking of them and will call later, will stop the midday freak out, because they know you care about them and they know you’re OK.
If you’re unhappy with them, don’t act cold and distant – be up front and speak to them so you both understand each other and this can help them stay in control of their emotions.
Of course, I can’t speak for every person in the world and, yes, there are some people who can be downright horrible.
But if I could get people to understand only one thing about being in a relationship with a person with BPD, it’s that we do not enjoy or take pleasure from our behavior.
It’s only ever done in a misguided attempt to stop the terrible feelings that occur when our illness is triggered by certain factors.
It breaks our heart when we feel our behavior has pushed you away, and sometimes we don’t have the emotional intelligence to fix it, which is where you need to help us.
If you fall for someone with BPD then I won’t lie, you will be in for an experience you may not have had before.
But if you learn about the illness, its symptoms and discuss with your partner, you will be able to find healthy ways of dealing with them and I promise you it will be worth it.
Think of it as installing an emotional stair lift for that broken leg til it heals.