Here’s what it’s like to be in a relationship with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder
When you finally meet the person who sets your world on fire, it feels incredible. You want to spend every minute of the day with them because you find them so interesting, so much fun, and so enjoyable to be around.
Having such strong emotions make people with BPD incredibly empathetic, and because of this we find it easy to connect with people on an emotional level quickly.
The feeling is so wonderful that when they’re gone (albeit maybe only to work for the day), you hit the floor like a rock and back comes that creeping emptiness.
You’ll do anything to keep it away, and because of this, it can become quite an addictive feeling to be around the person you love.
Now, obviously living in each others’ pockets is neither healthy nor feasible, and sometimes the intensity of someone with BPD’s love can be too much at first.
Some people pull away for space, which is possibly the hardest thing for us to take.
This may be because it’s thought that BPD could stem from early attachment issues in childhood, so another of the main symptoms is a ‘chronic fear of abandonment (real or perceived)’.
When people pull away for any reason, that part of our illness goes into overdrive and this is where the disorder may get its bad name