6 Tactics Narcissists Use Against Their Victims (That You Need To Know)
The narcissists´ world is a complex one. The disorder they suffer from confuses the people around them as to what is going on. The conduct they develop is so particular that there is a specific vocabulary required in order to understand it.
Here are six terms from the “Narcissus language” so that you may better understand their behavior and describe it to others.
This phrase is used to describe a series of words that do not connect to each other within the context of a sentence or speech, and that don’t relate to the question or the conversation they came from.
Its origin comes from psychiatry, describing how people who suffer from schizophrenia sometimes talk. They try to make sentences and to express themselves, but the brain is unable to process and apply a proper syntax. Just clips of phrases that don’t make much sense.
Why do narcissists use it?
- It seems as if they are answering the question – I speak, you speak – even if they do not know the answer. It ensures they get the final word. It’s hyper competitiveness; they can turn anything into a competition. It’s verbal ping pong, not two adults having a normal conversation.
- It controls the victim’s state and generates confusion. Through their linguistic ambiguity, they induce uncertainty and helplessness in the victim so that they give up and are more open to suggestion. Most narcissists have a natural knowledge about how to use language to manipulate and get their victim to a state where he/she is “at their mercy” (It seems they all go to the same school to learn these things).
- For blatant provocation of negative states, to trigger things in the victim, that he/she is a nasty, dishonest, immoral person,… they will provoke the victim to a point that he/she will burst out and have a fight.