Dehumanization: A Mechanism For Narcissists And Sociopaths To Mistreat Others
Objectification and invalidation lead to the narcissist or sociopath being able to exert their control over others. This control is something that they yearn for relentlessly because it allows them to minimize the risk to their ego. If they fear anything, it is a blow to the ego that they rely on so heavily to function in life.
All of their calculated words and actions are designed to promote themselves in a position of authority and power. From here they can control a person much like they try to control their environment. It doesn’t matter that this authority is illusory, they play on it and try to convince others of it, and they are often successful. They are effectively con artists in this respect.
This control is necessary for the narcissist or sociopath because of the way they view everything in their surroundings as an extension of themselves. Just like you value the control you have over your movements, they see the manipulation of others in the same light. To them, it is nothing more than a natural way to go about business.
On top of this, their positioning of themselves at the center of the universe means that nobody is more important than they are, and their needs should be prioritized over all others. It is this mindset that allows them to disregard everyone else in such a flagrant way; they simply put themselves first at all times regardless of the impact this may have.
These personalities also seek control over others because of their own, hidden, insecurities. Internally, they really don’t feel in control at all, so instead, they focus their efforts on controlling as much of the external world as they can, and this includes people.
Of course, in any form of relationship with such a person, this control can manifest itself in countless ways. In romantic situations, it can involve telling their victim who they can and can’t see, getting jealous of others, and the taking over of all financial decisions. In parent-child relationships, it might mean dictating what career path to follow, which hobbies to take up, and how to dress. It can also stray into even darker territories as we’ll now discuss.