Feeling Sympathy For Narcissists: The Arguments For And Against
Reasons We Should Sympathize With Narcissists
Let’s make one thing clear: feeling sympathy towards a narcissist does not mean that you have to condone their actions. When you come to consider the condition more subjectively, however, you may decide that the best response to it is one of caring.
Narcissism can be considered a mental illness such that it is a disorder of the mind that severely impacts the lives of those who suffer from it. The exact cause is unknown and it is likely that there are many varied paths that lead people towards narcissism. Like your own personality, it will be a combination of genetics and life experience.
This is an important argument for feeling sympathy towards narcissists. They have developed this way because of factors which have been largely beyond their control growing up. They might not be any more responsible for their issues than someone who suffers severe anxiety or who is bipolar.
You have to ask whether any narcissist chooses to be that way through their own free will.
We might also sympathize with a narcissist when we discover just how unhappy many (but not all) are likely to be. Many of their behaviors stem from a self-loathing that leaves them angry and frustrated. They take this out on others as a coping mechanism, but it doesn’t mask the fact that deep down, they are experiencing great pain of their own.
Another part of the sad reality of many narcissists is that they struggle to build and maintain any real relationships. They might feel little connection to their families, have few friends that they can count on, and hop from one disastrous relationship to another.