The 6 Masks Of A Narcissist (And How To Spot Them)
Narcissists are people who often attempt to conceal their true personality. At their core is this uncomfortable feeling about exposing who they really are.
This stems from their childhood wound and the insecurity and self-consciousness they all possess.
Based on their implicit and explicit memories of unmet childhood needs, many narcs develop the notion that such needs will never be met later on in life. This primary fear is at the core of the narcissist’s flimsy and unanimated attachment to others. They compensate for the fear of not having their needs met through a well-executed, excessively autonomous style.
This cocktail of fear and overcompensation also leads to a lack of intimacy with themselves, a void of self-knowing. As a result, they become performers; actors that play a flawless role in order to mix with others and get what they are after, what lies under their secret agenda: money, status, shelter, sex, love, admiration,… this is the narcissistic supply they need to function in life. In order to lure people into their web and get this narcissistic supply, they put on an attractive social mask.
There are two main types of narcissist: cerebral and somatic. A cerebral narcissist is a know-it-all, haughty, and intelligent “computer” – it is all about the brain. Somatic narcissists are mainly obsessed with the soma or body, how good it looks, what it can do, and how good at sex they are.
Within these two main types, there are different kinds of narcissist depending on their egos, brain structure, circumstances, and stimuli they were subjected to in childhood: covert, overt, and malignant among them.
These types will shape into different kinds of persona at various times in order to interact with the world: the masks.