How To Spot The Difference Between Narcissism And High Self-Esteem
Narcissism is a personality disorder that is becoming more widely known about, but how can you spot a narcissist from someone with genuine high self-esteem?
That’s what this article aims to answer by laying out some of the main differences in narcissistic behavior and that which is driven by healthy self-esteem. Hopefully, by the time you have finished reading, you’ll be better equipped to distinguish between those who are narcissists and those who are not.
This skill will allow you to work out who you should avoid in life and who is perfectly safe to be around.
So, without further ado, let’s dive into the primary differences between narcissists and those with high self-esteem.
1. They Have Very Different Root Causes
One of the ways you can tell a narcissist from someone with real self-esteem is by looking at their lives, their accomplishments and their future beliefs.
Narcissism grows out of fear; it shows itself as a fear of failure, deep-seated feelings of inadequacy, and an acute desire to be seen as hugely successful. High self-esteem, on the other hand, grows out of actual life achievements, the following of one’s values, and the realization of pragmatic expectations.
If you can get an accurate picture of a person’s life – through whatever means possible – then you will be able to get an idea of what they have actually achieved, and where they have embellished the truth. Often the life of a person, as seen from an outside perspective, gives clues as to whether narcissism or high self-esteem is present.
You can also ask them about what they dream of and envisage in their future. A narcissist will tell you nothing but grandiose plans of success, whereas you’ll receive more realistic goals and an acceptance of uncertainty from most other people.