How We Got Here His Point of View, From my Perspective
A narcissist is a parasite, has no more awareness of the damage he is causing than an aphid sucking the life out of its plant host. The aphid simply moves on to another plant when all the “juice” is gone out of its current living situation. And that is what a narcissist does also–he discards his victim when there’s no more to be had and moves on to the next.
I’ve done a vast amount of reading and researching this disorder. The people who have fallen prey to a narcissist are PISSED OFF and I am no exception. I have to really strive to defuse my anger because I know that anger will get me nowhere. I’m currently trying to channel my anger into an accomplishment: finding others, writing about our experiences and hopefully reaching others BEFORE they become victims.
It is a daunting task because I fear that I won’t be able to reach and warn others because most likely the only people seeking out this type of information have already been had! I actually was warned off this guy and I chose not to believe it. I was told by a very good source (one of his ex-wives–yes he had several and HELLO, that was another big red flag) that he would look you in the eye and LIE! How could I not take serious pause at that? I rationalized it away, I thought she was confused and bitter, maybe jealous.
I was also told by someone previously close to him to RUN! Run away from him right now because he will break your heart! And this was someone who would know. I laughed it off–he won’t break MY heart.
Stupid, stupid, stupid but I have paid dearly for my failure to heed the warnings. And I guess that comes down to arrogance. Yes, my own arrogance, another unattractive trait. I think I know better than everyone else, I think I am stronger than those before me and I think I can succeed where others have failed. I have made that mistake before and shame on me for not learning that lesson.