How We Got Here His Point of View, From my Perspective
I know in my situation, I had gotten myself vulnerable, perfectly primed for a hostile takeover.
I knew that he was powerful, but I looked forward to the challenge of going head-to-head with him, struggling for dominance. I am a domineering person, an unattractive trait, I know, and I’ve always known I needed a strong man, one who would not submit to my attempts to control him.
Well I found that man! Unfortunately, he succeeded in dominating me, and I never thought that could happen. I should say that he dominated my life, he has not and will not succeed in dominating me. He came close to crushing my spirit and convincing me that I was the crazy one, but I escaped in time.
So, I am domineering, have control issues, am very opinionated. In fact I’m right all the time, as in 100%, unless proven wrong, which is only about 1%. Not very nice and that didn’t work well with his personality because a narcissist cannot ever be challenged. I challenged him much too often, and sometimes about things that weren’t important enough to risk creating an argument. I never won an argument, and that doesn’t work well for me.
I told him before we were wed, on the very first date, that I thought honesty was one of the most important things between two people and he agreed. Imagine my consternation when I figured out that he lied frighteningly easily. It took me a long time to figure out that he didn’t think he was lying. He would become very angry if I questioned anything he said because of this.