How To Restore Your Trust Again After Narcissistic Abuse
However, the other end of the spectrum, “blind trust” is not helpful either; it is, in fact, foolish and putting ourselves at risk significantly … and that doesn’t work either.
Didn’t narcissistic abuse show us that believing in people and trusting what they told us wasn’t a path to health or safety? Especially when our Inner Guidance was screaming at us something is really wrong here and there were smoke signals appearing everywhere and we kept convincing ourselves of the versions that we wanted to believe – the versions we thought were “what we wanted.”
So what is the solution?
What is the happy medium?
What is the way to have appropriate trust without being shut down or defensive or unknowingly keep creating the situations that we can’t trust?
And why does this happen?
That’s what I am going to go deeply into, explore and peel back for you within this article – and it my greatest wish that a deeper healing of this topic will come about for you as a result.
How Trust Gets Smashed As a Result Of Abuse
To start off this article, I want to deeply validate you … and have compassion for you … because all of us (myself included) know the absolute soul agony of being betrayed deeply by people we thought that we could trust.
People who we thought we could trust with our lives and souls.
In the case of love partners, narcissists turned up in our lives (generally) as the people who “got” us, “validated” us and “held” our souls in tender care the most.
We felt like we had come home; that we were finally safe and loved and had connected with our True Soul Mate.
Or, even if we did not experience these deep feelings, we may have had the beliefs that love partners or husbands and wives are supposed to love, revere and honor us and be loyal.
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