How To Restore Your Trust Again After Narcissistic Abuse
This level of development and solidness – I am whole within myself and I will honour sensibility and self-love because I am NO longer fearful of handing over my power because I fear rejection, abandonment, criticism or punishment and I am no longer NEEDY for someone else to provide me with love, approval, survival, and security … is the total formula for TRUST.
Because no longer will you ever pin your life on people outside of yourself, and for the first time ever you will be truly capable of generating healthy relationships and walking away without the agony if you discover they are not.
We can begin an investment in someone and at any time break the deal when it is no longer wholesome for us.
Which means we are no longer living in fear, paranoia, and defenses looking out for abusers.
Now here is the real deeper truth about all of this … IF we do get derailed by someone who shows up as unwholesome – we can STILL bless that, know it is a gift and it was meant to be – because it gave us the incredible stepping stone opportunity to heal something within us that we had not healed before and go up an even higher level with our evolution in regard to “relationship”.
That orientation is a far cry from staying in unconsciousness, victimization, fear and continual suffering.
The truth is we can pull away …
If we don’t overcommit before appropriate.
IF we have not pinned our love, approval. survival and security of this person.
IF we are solid, healthy and happy within ourselves (no-one can give us our own happiness.)
IF we are sharing the love we already have for ourselves and life and are not with this person to try to GET LOVE and take away the pain of NOT having it in our lives.
Can you see how this changes everything?
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