How To Restore Your Trust Again After Narcissistic Abuse
When I see anything less than divine I know that people are responding from their own unhealed traumas … and for that I have compassion and I work on myself to release any judgment of that (I am getting so much better at it) – leaving simply the observation of where they are at.
If that person is willing to awaken and take responsibility for their wounding then that is easy to be around and inspiring to join in with. And if they don’t and wish to blame, shame and condemn others for it and hold them responsible, then they are not ready to escape their own torture, and in the current moment, they have zero ability to heal.
To continue to stay attached to people like this would only be abusing myself, but there is still NO requirement for this person to be any different for my life to be what it is.
I can bless them, allow them to be themselves and chose healthier realities for myself.
In regard to being “taken in”, “duped” or “abused” … I just DON’T believe that is possible when we are showing up authentically – when we are honest about concerns, ask the difficult questions and confronting anything directly that feels “off”.
I also don’t believe we are susceptible to tolerating abuse when we are ALREADY a solid source of love, approval, survival, and security to ourselves.
When we are not desperate, needy or dependent we don’t over-commit to people straight away. We can retain ourselves, our lives and our resources and blend at a respectful and sensible pace.
Most of us in this Community are not teenagers. We are adult people who have had histories of previous relationships and intense learning. There is no need for us to act like reckless teenagers and be swept into ways of living with people in ANY capacity which are foolish.
If people won’t slow down and accept healthy boundaries and your due diligence and respecting yourself in regard to them, then they are either severely co-dependent and needy and/or narcissistic … and there is NO way you want to have business or love relationships with them.
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