7 Things A Narcissist Cannot Do For You (Or Anyone Else)
2. Be Interested In Your Problems
Seriously, they’re really not. Telling them about things that are bothering you or hurting you in your personal life will be shrugged off or ignored, and they’ll immediately launch into a diatribe about all the crappy things they’re dealing with.
Your problems are boring.
If the subject doesn’t involve them or revolve around them, then why the hell are you even talking? This isn’t a person you can go to for comfort or reassurance about anything. Are you worried about a health crisis? OMG, their slight scratch is so painful and so much worse than anything you’re dealing with. Bad breakup? Did they tell you about the horrible date they had last week?
Everything is all about them, all the time, so if you’re going to socialize with them at all, you might as well just get used to that and play along.
If you corner a narcissist and force them to acknowledge that they did something spectacularly sh*tty towards you, don’t expect them to apologize. Their first instinct will be to gaslight you – try to make you believe that you’re crazy, or remembering things wrong – so that they’re absolved of all blame. If their gaslighting doesn’t work, they’ll go on the defensive and try to redirect the conversation to something you’ve done wrong.
If by some absolute miracle you do get an apology, it’ll be half-assed, bitchy, and insincere. Think along the lines of:
“I’m SORRY, okay? Now will you shut up?”
“I’m sorry you’re so sensitive and took everything the wrong way.”
Remember, they never do anything wrong. They’re perfect and wonderful and if you have an issue with something they’ve done, then that’s all on you.