6 Healthy Ways to Cope With A Narcissist
Last week we focused on the basic signs of a narcissistic personality. This week we’ll focus on ways to cope with people who exhibit traits of narcissism.
It’s almost inevitable to meet a narcissist in your neighborhood, at work, in the grocery store, at the movies, or even at your doctor’s office. In fact, some research claims that narcissism affects about 6% of our population (1 in 16 American adults). Although this is not an overwhelmingly large number of people, it is still a lot of people. From a clinical point of view, there is probably much more narcissism that we are aware of and/or are able to accurately identify in daily life. Almost anyone in today’s world could be considered a narcissist by a loose definition. Sadly, most people describe narcissism as “extreme selfishness.” But it includes a “disordered” way of engaging with other people, especially once they are found out.
Thankfully, those of us who study psychology for a living have found ways to identify the narcissist. It’s important that you are able to:
- Ignore their “best” efforts: A narcissist thrives on the ability to influence, control, or “move” you in any way they can. If you ignore them, you will see a major change in their behaviors toward you in a negative sense. You may see them act out in rage or anger, threaten, make accusations, or attempt to intimidate you in some fashion. No matter what, ignore their best efforts. You will come out on top. The moment you “lose your place” and begin to respond to their petty attempts at controlling or harming you, you lose the battle.