What to do when you are bullied by a narcissist
From the narcissist’s perspective: An insightful glimpse into a narcissist’s motivation
My husband and I have struggled with 2 top-of-the-class narcissists for many years now. First we fought for their acceptance, respect and love. Then we battled to escape their abuse. And now, after almost 7 years we still ward off their attacks.
I know everybody’s situation is different. And the narcissistic spectrum is wide. But through my own experiences, I learned how extreme narcissists think and why we get caught in their trap.
I also had to discover how to overcome the trauma of their bullying and find peace while the narcissistic storm raged around us.
Today, I want to share these important lessons in the hope that it may help you in a similar situation.
Let’s start with the sad reasons why narcissists behave the way they do.
A narcissist’s tragic addiction
Narcissists are addicted to wealth, power and status and the resulting recognition and admiration. They don’t seek love, human connection or mutual relationships. Severe narcissists are incapable of these feelings (poor sods if you think of it!).
They crave other people’s admiration, adoration and devotion. That’s their #1 goal in life. Why?
Because narcissists have no self-worth. Despite their overinflated egos, subconsciously, they feel entirely unworthy.
They compensate for this feeling of complete worthlessness by focussing on the accumulation of status symbols. And by surrounding themselves with people who admire, adore and approve of them.
They need people who agree with them, overlook their mistakes and never challenge anything they propose. Because any opposition, objection or error plummets them into a deep abyss of unworthiness.