5 Ways To Identify The Secret Language Of Narcissists
2. POOR ME
You feel sorry for them and you naturally want to help. Watch out because once they’ve pegged you as a source of “supply” you’ll be doing all the work for them. These are among the most draining and irritating narcissist. You’ll hear things like, “I’m so confused” or “you’re so smart” or “I can always rely on you.” Surely, there are moments in all our lives where we’re genuinely confused and help from others is a must. But like the saying goes, teach a man to fish and they’ll have food source for a lifetime…the covert narcissist resists learning and finds somebody else to do the work for them.
3. RIBBONS AND BOWS
The gift (I mean guilt) giver is the covert narcissist who loves to give and do favors as a way to manipulate you. They give because the moment they need you, they expect you to give back to them at the moment they need it and will let you know that you being unavailable is “selfish” considering all they’ve done and given to you. A gift with strings attached is not a gift. Just say NO.
4. HELP ME (NOT REALLY)
Obsessed with problems, this covert narcissist won’t call you until they need your advice (which they’ll NEVER take). You may feel good temporarily because they’ve reached out to you, and they say things like, “you’re so smart” or “I look up to you” (and of course, you naturally want to help). If you feel drained and headachy after “helping”, BEWARE, you’re being used as a dumping ground.