How Not to Cope with a Narcissist
- Acting out. It frequently backfires when a person expresses their frustrations to the narcissist about their narcissistic behavior. So instead, non-narcissists act out their infuriation on others and avoid the narcissist.
- Denial. It is far easier to intentionally ignore the red flags of narcissism than it is to confront the reality. This is commonly done by those that are narcissistic and don’t want to self-evaluate or those that don’t want to deal with the consequences of the realization. For instance, they might need to get a new job or leave the marriage.
- Dissociation. Eventually the narcissist rages, completely losing it over a seemingly insignificant matter while verbally assaulting anyone who is nearby. Those who have grown accustomed to the outbursts tend to space out during the frenzy and thus dissociate for a brief period of time.
- Idealization. By disregarding the negative characteristics of a narcissist and focusing on their successes, a person idealizes the narcissist. This coping mechanism has a dual purpose as it also feeds the narcissist’s need for superiority and affirmation. Thus the person providing this support becomes a favorite of the narcissist and can be immune from the majority of the rages.