5 Environments that Distinguish Narcissists from Borderlines
There is a lot of crossover between Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). They share some of the same characteristics yet the underlying needs and motivations are extremely different. For a person unfamiliar with the subtitles, this can be quite confusing.
Without an accurate understanding of the two, it is easy to misinterpret their behaviors and make a situation worse. Fortunately, NPDs and BPDs want to be appreciated for who they are and therefore make it clear in these five environments just which personality they are.
- Walking into a relationship. At the start of any relationship, NPDs and BPDs are highly attentive. They have an ability to immediately connect with another person and draw them into their world. They act as if the other person is the most important person in their whole life.
- At the heart of a narcissist is a deep rooted insecurity that they cover with a perfect exterior. So while the relationship begins fast and quick, it only goes so deep because the NPD is fearful of revealing their secret. This is confusing for the other person who thought the relationship would continue to progress.
- At the heart of borderlines is an intense fear of abandonment. Any indication that the BPD will be discarded is met with intense anxiety and a desperate need to get the other person back. Many times, they come across as needy, demanding, or extreme. This is exhausting for the other person who is confused by the dramatic shift in the relationship.