UNHEALTHY EGO: HOW TO RECOGNISE A NARCISSIST
Does this sound like anyone you know?
- Highly competitive in virtually all aspects of his life, believing he (or she) possesses special qualities and abilities that others lack; portrays himself as a winner and all others as losers.
- Displays a grandiose sense of self, violating social norms, throwing tantrums, even breaking laws with minimal consequences; generally behaves as if entitled to do whatever he wants regardless of how it affects others.
- Shames or humiliates those who disagree with him, and goes on the attack when hurt or frustrated, often exploding with rage.
- Arrogant, vain and haughty and exaggerates his accomplishments; bullies others to get his own way.
- Lies or distorts the truth for personal gain, blames others or makes excuses for his mistakes, ignores or rewrites facts that challenge his self-image, and won’t listen to arguments based on truth.
These are common characteristics of extreme narcissists as described by Joseph Burgo, a clinical psychologist, in his book The Narcissist You Know. While we now live in a culture that some would call narcissistic, with millions of people constantly taking selfies, spewing out tweets and posting everything they do on YouTube and Facebook, the extreme narcissists Burgo describes are a breed unto themselves. They may be highly successful in their chosen fields but extremely difficult to live with and work with.