18 Things You Need To Know If You’re Falling In Love With A Narcissist
I don’t know when I became a self-aware narcissist. I mean, I probably was always the narcissist part, but the self-aware bit came one day when I said something self-deprecating and someone told me not to be so hard on myself.
My response was, “My self-deprecation is just another form of self-absorption.”
Epiphany time! Assured of my palatable form of narcissism, I patted myself on the back and then went to check the mirror to see if I looked wiser but hopefully not older. I looked the same but I still spent a while with my reflection.
I think most narcissists fall into the self-aware category with me. (I’m not special, even if I’m so special.) We’re the overthinkers, the navel-gazers, the writers, but we really do know that we can’t be all about us all the time. The problem is, sometimes it just happens.
It makes it hard to be in love with us, and you will fall in love with us. We’re dazzling but we aren’t monsters; we’re just messes (once you get to know us). And when it comes to finding someone who loves us, flaws and all (we do know we have them), we want you to stay in love with us.