17 Things to Never Say to a Girl With Borderline Personality Disorder
1. Nothing. Going to bed in an argument isn’t our style. Even when you’ve casually dismissed it as a minor disagreement and all but forgotten about it, we’re worrying that you hate us and will never speak to us again. So please, stay awake long enough to text us back and tell us it’s OK.
2. “Aren’t you overreacting?” BPD has been described as having no “emotional skin.” We’re psychologically raw and exposed and as such we feel things, good and bad, very deeply. You might see it as an overreaction — to us, it’s an honest expression of what we’re feeling.
3. “OMG, is that like the woman in Fatal Attraction?” Ahem. I’m not going to boil Flopsy alive, I’m a vegetarian. Unfortunately, BPD has become a one-size-fits-all label for “dangerous” women. This is an incredibly unfair stereotype: BPD sufferers are a lot more likely to hurt themselves than they are to hurt anyone else
4. “But you were so happy this morning — what changed?” BPD sufferers can experience rapid mood swings which appear irrational to the outside observer, often triggered by seemingly insignificant events. If getting a “B” in our class or flunking a job interview seems like the end of the world to us, imagine how we feel when something really serious like the death of a loved one occurs.